Touch

Excerpted from a LiveJournal Post - 1/28/03

there is a rule in giving massage -- never stop touching the person from the time you start until the time the session is over. if you need to move to the other side, then put your hand on them while you move. if you need to open a bottle of oil, rest your elbow on their back, or put your body against their arm, or something, anything, just so the person is never physically isolated from the masseuse.

i feel this should be true with partners as well. if not physically touching, then at least having the receptiveness to being touched at any time, without judgement or rebuke. to rebond, physically, with a kiss, a hug, a fingertip, an elbow, or just the brush of a hip as you walk by...... the intimacy of touch.

in talking, you can share secrets, confess your love, or ruin a relationship. vision excites, stimulates, or horrifies. but when you touch someone, when you feel the warmth of another person's skin, maybe feel their heart beating, or the hot dripping of their tears, only then do you truly know that you are not alone in the world.

for me, a thousand words said softly has not the impact of a simple caress, and the radiant vision of a lover coming towards me is meaningless until her arms finally embrace.